Ask them.  Directly.  To their face.  That's what I always do.  For years, I knew the fetishes, kinks, cock size, homosexual experiences and the number of sexual partners a guy had long before I had conscious thoughts of fucking them.  But I'm not timid about sex, and I haven't had sex with people who were.  

But for those who are less bold, there are forms one can fill out.  Seriously.  And they're good.

MojoUpgrade:  This is a really helpful internet quiz designed to help couples discover their sexual compatibility.  And, their incompatibility.  Or just to discover what you’re into.  Lord Ristretto and I took this together and, funnily enough, that there were things we wanted to do but hadn't mentioned to the other.  No matter how much communication a couple has, you can't remember EVERYTHING to talk about.

Fetishes And Limits:  I found this on the /r/sex subreddit, created by /u/simontog.  It's essentially the same thing as mojoupgrade, but in a more straightforward, printable form.  Could be used as a party game or a drinking game.  Here's a sample:

Here’s the scale: 1 - Very much into / Something I enjoy / Turn On 2 - Haven’t done it but want to try 3 - I would do it if the other person enjoyed it 4 - Does nothing for me, but isn’t a limit 5 - Hard limit / Something I won’t do / Turn off

Role Playing

_______ Age Play (you play younger)

_______ Animal Roles (e.g. human puppy dog)

_______ Examinations (doctor-nurse play/medical scenes)

_______ Family Play (e.g. Incest Play)

_______ Daddy/little girl (DD/lg)

_______ Fantasy Abandonment

_______ Fantasy Rape

_______ Interrogations

_______ Kidnapping

_______ Prison Scenes

_______ Prostitution (being sold to others)

_______ Pony play (e.g. pony girl)

_______ Religious Play (nun/priest/rabbi/alterboy-girl)

Sexual Play

_______ Anal Play/Anal Sex

_______ Anal Plugs/Beads

_______ Anal Plugs/Beads Outdoors (under clothes)

_______ Bestiality

_______ Brown Showers (scat)

_______ Camming Sex with me

_______ Camming Sex with me and others

_______ Creampies

_______ Cyber Sex with me (no cam)

_______ Cyber Sex with me and others (no cam)

_______ Dildos

_______ Double Penetration with dildos

_______ Double Penetration with two men

_______ Fisting (anal)

_______ Fisting (vaginal)

_______ Food Play

_______ Forced Heterosexuality (being used by friends)

_______ Forced Heterosexuality (being used by strangers, with protection)

_______ Forced Homosexuality (being used by friends)

_______ Forced Homosexuality (being used by strangers)

_______ Gang Bang

_______ Genital Sex

_______ Glory-Hole Sex

_______ Golden Showers

_______ Lactation (giving)

_______ Lactation (receiving)

_______ Licking (body homage with tongue)

_______ Menstruation (sex during)

_______ Oral-Anal Play (rimming, receiving)

_______ Oral-Anal Play (doing to another)

_______ Phone Sex

_______ Photos on demand (e.g., via text messenger during the day)

_______ Sex (Heterosexual)

_______ Sex (Homosexual)

_______ Sexual Deprivation

_______ Strap-Ons (receiving)

_______ Strap-Ons (wearing/giving)

_______ Swapping (being given)

_______ Swinging (one or more other couples)

_______ Swallowing (cum)

_______ Talking Dirty (Talker)

_______ Talking Dirty (Talkee)

_______ Tickling

_______ Vibrators

_______ Wrestling

I was browsing/answering posts on the subreddit /r/sex this afternoon, and found one about threesomes:  Best Way To Get Into A Threesome.  Here is the advice I gave, and, yes, it's based upon personal experience.


1). Don't push it. They happen naturally. When you try to force the situation, it brings a creep vibe that kills the mood.

2)  It will happen with friends of yours who are openminded sexually. They might not have said they want a threesome, but they could be flirty or like talking about sex. (Talking about sex is a great way to eventually have sex)

3). Drink alcohol. It lowers everyone's inhibitions and removes responsibility (apparently).

4). Be brave. Threesomes always require that person (when the time is right) to be willing to do the one thing that will take everyone past the point of no return. Be that person.






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