Every week in my newsletter (sign up here), I have a Reddit Sex Story of the Week.  This week, rather than highlight just one sex story, we highlight multiple, all written by one redditor named BadDad1214.  In actuality, it is one long story that has been broken into parts over a 100 day period, and is ongoing.

BadDad1214 has had an ongoing sexual relationship with his daughter that has had just enough realistic details to convince me it is real.  He won't offer the age of his daughter (indicator number one), and has had rough sex with her which has resulted in injury.  The sex has also occurred while his two younger boys have been home.  

BadDad's wife is from India and they were married by arrangement (I assume he is Indian as well).  The daughter is his daughter by a previous marriage.  The wife has left for India to take care of her parents, and in her absence BadDad and his daughter have assumed a kind of "dating" relationship in absolute secret.

Well, except that the internet knows.  

When I first encountered genderbending cosplay it was at the Dallas Comic Con a few years ago.  A group of female Avengers was holding up walking traffic in the middle of the displays.  People were waiting impatiently for opportunities to photograph or be photographed with them.  I thought they looked cool, but I also thought this was cheating: after all, the original characters were male.  Wasn’t this cheating?

My boyfriend recently told me that there is talk of a female Thor movie coming up in the next years.  Again, I thought, is this cheating?  I intrigued me that a major studio would entertain the notion of genderbending a major comic book (and theater) superhero.  But it still didn’t sit well with me.

Then I got on Pinterest.  All hail Pinterest with its lovely organization of the internet world.  Genderbending cosplay is everywhere and it finally hit me.  I finally got it.

It works because it’s sexy.  And it’s sexy because it works.

It works because seeing women dressed as superheros traditionally characterized as men is sexy with its empowerment.  These women could snap my neck and that level of strength and, the fact that they don’t, humanity makes them sexually appealing.  The become goddesses, amazons, warrior women.  They suddenly become powerful in a way men do not—probably because we already assume men have power.  Misogynistically, we see women as weaker, most especially in America.  So to see women as traditional male superheros elevates them above all else—including their male counterparts.

It’s sexy because it works: We see them as sexy because we buy into the idea of women as male superheros.  We buy into the idea because superheros are universal.  Superman doesn’t need to be a man, nor does Batman.  Superman is an entity that can be anyone.  A woman wearing the costume takes upon herself all the attributes and strengths and characteristics that come with the personae.  If this wasn’t true, we wouldn’t find the cosplay sexy at all: it would seem ridiculous.

My Cosplay board on Pinterest.

Often I'll skip my way through Reddit using their random NSFW search link.  Sometimes I find subreddits I really wish I hadn't (pics of dead kids), but often I find things that are very educational.

Today I learned about the innie pussy.  Diagram provided:

Being a woman (yes, I promise I am), this surprised me: I didn't really know there was a difference.  

Being a bisexual woman, I felt stupid: I've had sex with numerous women.  How have I not noticed this?

Well, to be fair, when I was with those women, I wasn't thinking at all about comparing our bodies and discovering how remarkable female anatomy is.  All I cared about was fucking them and getting fucked by them.  Honestly, I don't remember anything specific about anyone, except how I felt with them.  

It is very possible that this is entirely because this is my thinking process.  Sometimes, especially when I'm excited, my vision narrows and all that I can focus on or remember is what I'm excited about.  Sex is a good example of this.  Sometimes details escape me, even ones that seem like they would be important.

Perhaps it has something to do with men having a stronger interest in images---that men remember pussies enough to create categories for them, so they may better remember their experiences and help them foster new fantasies.  

Do I prefer an innie or an outie?  I just like pussy.

Set in Pompeii during the years leading up to the eruption of Vesuvius, this full length novel follows the lives of prostitutes and politicians, gladiators and slaves, the elite an the nouveau riche. Their lives intertwine and the choices they make lead to the destruction of Pompeii.

Coming soon to Nook and Kindle.

The subreddit /r/incest offers the following post as general advice for anyone needing advice about making sexual advances on a family member:  Tips on Seduction of Family Members.

Honestly, the advice is really wise, logical and optimistic: "Consanguineous lovemaking, sex, or experimentation is common enough that everyone knows someone who is, or has been, involved, and has been a reality for all of human experience."   But also warns that there is a difference between consensual sexual activity between relatives and rape.

My favorite bit of advice:

"Do not expect that by suddenly waving an erection around (assuming you have a penis) or 'getting caught' masturbating that mom will turn into your unbridled, passionate sex kitten."


This post is refreshing, intelligent, honest and very important.  There is no point in denying or demonizing incest, when it is a common occurrence in society.  Bravo, Reddit.

"Me and my sister and my mare" is one of the best " true" stories I've read on reddit.  Located under the /r/incest subreddit, the story runs a few thousand words and teaches one much about how to fuck a horse. 

Click on the above image to get to the story.

I'm completely fascinated with RealDolls and found the Boy Toy website (linked above), extremely interesting.  Let me make this clear: I'm not mocking the dolls, nor criticizing them.  I'm only analyzing them, seeing them for what they are, and without judgement.  

This blog is going to be an album of what I found at the above site, images which particularly interested me.  I'll add captions to those I can't let slip by without comment.

I'm branching out in my methods of reaching people by beginning a newsletter.  The content will include my latest activities, but most likely I'll use it as a different way of ranting about sex.  Maybe I'll just send pics that I've discovered that are particularly hot.   It will be NSFW, that I can promise.  Sign up below:

I found a sex survey on reddit (linked on the image above) and I like talking about my sex life and I'm fascinated by psychological studies, so I started taking it.  I didn't finish it, however, because I found I did know how to answer many questions.  These are some of those questions and I'll answer them to the best of my ability.


How many partners have you engaged in sexual behavior with but not had sex with?
I can't possibly remember.  I'm forty.  I've been having sex since I was 21 (very late bloomer).  Though I was a late bloomer, I've worked very hard to make up for it.  I could put together a list of people I've had sex with, but those I just messed around with I can't possibly remember.  


How many times have you gone out to bars/parties/social events with the intent of "hooking up" but not having sex with someone?
Oh, god, who could possibly answer this.  I can't even remember all the bars I went to, let alone how many times I felt horny and wanted dick/pussy.

How many times have you had an unexpected and unanticipated sexual experience?
More often than not, this is what happens.  When Lord Ristretto surprises me in the morning for sex, does that count?  It must, because it fits their definition.  And after almost twenty years, how can I generate a number for this.

How many times have you had a sexual encounter you engaged in willingly but later regretted?
This one is pretty broad and an interpretation can include everything from rape to merely regretting a relationship.  Again, I have no idea.  

How many times have you given or received fellatio (oral sex on a man) without a condom?
Do people actually DO this?  I've heard of it, and heard that people do it, but I've never done it.  From the point of view of a sexual philosophy grounded in pleasure and hedonism, this seems like an unacceptable form of protection.  What's the point of fellatio if I can't taste the cock and swallow cum.  

 How many times have you given or received cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman) without a dental dam or "adequate protection"?
Again, who does this?  I site the above answer.

How many times have you or your partner used alcohol or drugs before or during sex?
For many years, I didn't/couldn't have sex without being drunk.  Almost always, the person I was fucking was drunk as well.  I'm not sure when this began, and only have a vague idea about when it ended (I was drunk, haha).  But generating a number isn't possible at all.  Isn't a better question, have you ever had sex while using drugs/alcohol?

How many times (that you know of) have you had sex with someone who has had many sexual partners?
What strikes me by this question is its opposite form: how many people did you fuck that had little to no experience?  What, then, is little experience?  What is "many partners"?  I'm sure the number has changed through the years, depending upon cultural influences.  

How many partners have you had sex with that you didn’t trust?
Wow, where do I begin with this?  How do I define "trust"?  Under what context (do I trust him to feed the cats?)?  


I'm not going to rewrite the questions so that they would generate more accurate answers.  What interests me is the inability to quantify sexual experience.  Quantifying sexual esteem is a pretty arduous task in itself.

But what is my experience?  What does it mean that I can't remember everything, or everyone?  What about those people I remember and will always remember?  Shouldn't they have special prominence when judging my self esteem, or my sexual history as a whole?  And what about the erotica I write: aren't those also my sexual experiences, extensions of my history and manifestations of my self esteem?  Perhaps my erotica is a more vivid portrait of my sexual life than what I've actually done.